Whether you have dreamed of the fairytale wedding since you were twelve or said “yes” without realising what it meant to plan a wedding – here are seven tried and tested formulas that will help you remain sane.
Wedding planning is a memorable experience, but if you’re not careful you’ll be easily baffled at the enormity of it. The best place to start – maintain a planner or diary and write everything down. Event schedules, appointments, phone numbers, budget sheets, to-do lists, all things pertaining to your wedding should be in one neat place. Try to be foresighted; if your facial treatment is right next to the sweet shop then finish both the work together.
Doing all the planning and coordinating on your own will turn you into a bridezilla faster than anything else! Designate tasks to your friends and siblings, and please do not micro-manage their moves. Someone can look after your outstation friends, a close cousin can fend-off drama from pestering relatives, your sister can track your trousseau deliveries and so on. Trust your bridal party with the tasks and relax.
EAT, DRINK, EXERCISE
Nothing fuels a temper or meltdown faster than hunger and a weak body. Eat and drink healthy through the wedding planning months, even if you are dieting. You will be spending hours on shopping trips, trials and venue planning- these burn calories – so carry munchies and schedule in proper meals. Along with eating healthy you need to stay fit, hit the gym or Zumba classes months before D-day. Exercising will also act as a good stress buster during the argument filled wedding planning days.
ASSIGN A MAID-OF-HONOR
The concept of maid-of-honor is not new, but Indian brides rarely take advantage of it. Have your sister or your BFF be the MOH and let them know all the wedding planning details and, give them access to your wedding book. This will save you a lot of stress, especially on the final days when you are busy getting ready for the events.
SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR BFFs
Your friends are sensitive to your needs as a bride-to-be, and you are most probably only having conversations about the wedding plans. If you ask them about what’s happening in their lives, you’ll be surprised at how much you have missed. It is important to, meet your friends for coffee or dinner and, talk about everything else BUT the wedding.
SET ASIDE ‘FIANCE TIME’
The world could be falling apart but if your partner is still standing there your side, everything will be just fine! There will be moments when both of you are stressed out about the wedding planning, and it is important to not let the wedding take anything away from the best phase of your relationship. Plan together and add to each other’s ideas – but don’t let it all be about the wedding. Spend time at the movies or over romantic dinners, connect with each other.
SMILE AND TAKE IT ALL IN
It is easy for you, as the bride, to get so lost in the planning and formalities that you forget to enjoy the moments. This is YOUR (well you and your groom’s) wedding , everyone is there to celebrate your union, do your best to stay calm and savor the moments. It won’t matter tomorrow if the rose decor was in blush pink instead of true pink, all that matters is that you and your closed ones enjoyed a beautiful celebration!