I want to ask my male readers a question today… have you ever, as a kid, been told “don’t cry like a girl, you’re a brave boy”? As a father, how many times have you told your daughter to wear something more conservative but never told your son to not take any girl’s clothing as provocative? We have seen memes and heart-warming articles on every relationship from mother-daughter to couples and siblings, but a father-son bond is the most unspoken relation of them all.
Mens’ wear designer Poonam Kasera launches her new collection for a very specific type of man. A man who teaches their son how to treat a lady. A veteran in the business with an A-list clientele from all across the country, this Kolkata based men’s fashion company has witnessed a big change in how men shop, dress up, behave and think. As the brand’s blogging partner, we reached out to father son duos in Kolkata who set goals in our society not only through their style but also how they influence other’s thinking.
Dr Rajeev Agarwal, gynaecologist, Laparoscopic surgeon and clinical director at Care IVF feels ‘chivalry’ is endangered in today’s generation. In a profession, where he is surrounded by women and that too in the most life-changing phase of their lives, Dr Agarwal wishes he saw husbands accompany their wives more during appointments as even today these activities are considered to be the ladies’ job. Wearing: An asymmetrical embroidered jacket with a stylish cut kurta and narrow pants. Taken after his father’s smile, Sahil Agarwal looked dapper in black cowl pantsi and military grey shirt style kurta. Looking at his dad work for 12-14 hours in a day and come back home with a smile leaving his work stress behind, taught him the importance of balance and family time.
Ritvik Kumar of Marici Experience Centre, has always seen his father ensure empowerment to the ladies of the family and workplace. He goes out of his way to remove any hindrance in their path to help them reach their full potential. With the role they play, they don’t ‘need’ to be treated with respect but are entitled to it. Wearing: A stylish side open Columbian blue long kurta with an off-white patiala. His father Rahul Kumar is wearig a self-design fabric kurta with subtley intricate hand-embroidery on the placket, a season special piece. His advice to his son is behave respectfully as that reflects your character not the lady’s.
Indian fathers don’t hug their sons enough. Normalise a hug and tell them it’s okay to express. Being a wedding photographer, Rajesh Gupta has closely observed the different treatment between daughters and sons in terms of telling them how to conduct themselves. Rajesh Gupta a fashion enthusiast before a photographer compliments the earthy brown kurta with hand-embroidered collar, pocket and a flap cuf teamed with his own stole. Elder son Kanishk Kenny Gupta known as the Madphotographer, smoulders the olive grey kurta shirt with a front slit layer; and younger son Kushagra, a graphic designer, slays it in a free hand-embroidered jacket, shirt style kurta and cream raw woven fabric pants.
Prateek Lakhotia, fondly known as Manu, feels there are a lot of pre-conceived notions about women. Gratitude is something we often forget and take them for granted. “Even though from my generation, as kids we are taught to be gentle with girls and never misbehave but I would like to teach my son a lot beyond behaviour. Listen to them and understand them, because once you do you’ll automatically want to give them respect.”
Wearing a formal long hand embroidered kurta with a side drape teamed with a churidar; Manu's sense of style is timeless and a staple black kurta is always required in your wardrobe. Miraan is wearing a patyala and assymetrical buttoned achkan with an owl embroidery on the pocket.
This trio is of a chacha and two nephews because chachas say yes when fathers say no. “From a young age boys need to be careful about how they are treating a girl because they might unintentionally scar them for life. I don’t want my nephew to be any girl’s mistake. It’s never ‘cool’ to be mean to anyone,” said Sukrit Kasera with nephews Samar and Hrivaan Kasera. “And of course I’ll be teaching them to support Barca and play Fifa with me.”
The notorious trio is wearing South Indian style matching dhoti and full buttoned up Kurta. Instead of choosing the common vibrant colour and avoiding the dark hues for festive season, Poonam Kasera keeps it minimal yet stylish even for the two year olds.